Have you ever spent almost half your life disliking someone only to find out that you actually really like them once you get to know them? Its quite an interesting feeling really. Something I never would have expected.
I have known who this person was for probably 20 years. But she was always the one "who stole my man!" so of course, I didn't much care for her. And you know how it is when you are young and dumb, its always easier to blame other people for things not working out. So, that is what I did. Its funny though, things always have a way of working out though.
I recently joined a website for my old high school. You can hook up with all your old friends from school on it. Kinda neat actually. No, its not classmates.com. I actually joined kleinforestalumni.com. Well, it also shows alumni from other schools as well. So of course, I came across this particular person. Took a peek at her site to see what "they" were up to. Oh, I failed to mention that she married this man of mine that she stole! hehehee Anyway....we spent some time peeking at each other's profiles, so I finally decided you know what, I'm just going to say hello. What do I have to lose right? Other than she could have just seriously gone off on me so I actually was a bit concerned about what I was going to get back! Oh well. No pain no gain! So, I popped her an email and just said hello and commented on how beautiful their two girls were. How could anyone get mad at that right??? :-)
Well, she sent a nice reply back, and we actually spent time emailing back and forth and you know what, I actually like her! We have a lot of things in common. Its interesting really. We don't spend hardly any time discussing the past, other than to take a few stroles down memory lane. But never in a negative way. Its always been positive. We've really had some great laughs over the whole thing. And it has really brought back some great memories and things I have long forgotten. Of course sometimes she keeps me up way past my bedtime chatting though!!! hehehehehee I just can't help it! She cracks me up! Oh, and did I mention that she cracks herself up also?!?!? hehehehee
I have known who this person was for probably 20 years. But she was always the one "who stole my man!" so of course, I didn't much care for her. And you know how it is when you are young and dumb, its always easier to blame other people for things not working out. So, that is what I did. Its funny though, things always have a way of working out though.
I recently joined a website for my old high school. You can hook up with all your old friends from school on it. Kinda neat actually. No, its not classmates.com. I actually joined kleinforestalumni.com. Well, it also shows alumni from other schools as well. So of course, I came across this particular person. Took a peek at her site to see what "they" were up to. Oh, I failed to mention that she married this man of mine that she stole! hehehee Anyway....we spent some time peeking at each other's profiles, so I finally decided you know what, I'm just going to say hello. What do I have to lose right? Other than she could have just seriously gone off on me so I actually was a bit concerned about what I was going to get back! Oh well. No pain no gain! So, I popped her an email and just said hello and commented on how beautiful their two girls were. How could anyone get mad at that right??? :-)
Well, she sent a nice reply back, and we actually spent time emailing back and forth and you know what, I actually like her! We have a lot of things in common. Its interesting really. We don't spend hardly any time discussing the past, other than to take a few stroles down memory lane. But never in a negative way. Its always been positive. We've really had some great laughs over the whole thing. And it has really brought back some great memories and things I have long forgotten. Of course sometimes she keeps me up way past my bedtime chatting though!!! hehehehehee I just can't help it! She cracks me up! Oh, and did I mention that she cracks herself up also?!?!? hehehehee
I love hearing about her two beautiful daughters. They are amazing. Its funny to hear about how different they are. I get almost as excited as she does listening to her talk about her youngest's volley ball games! I love it!
Who would have ever thought she and I would end up talking. I'd sure like to see the looks on a few people's faces if they only knew!!!!
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Let me get this straight. This person stole your man, bore his children (beautiful as they may be), and lived the future you thought you would have, and yet you have put that aside (turned the other cheek in "biblical" terms) to spark a friendship?
If I'd known that's what it took to get you to blog with me then I'd screwed you over a long time ago.
Now now Anon....as I said, everything works out the way it was supposed to. She is living the life she was ment to live and I am living the life I was ment to live. There was no screwing over involved. Besides, she didn't know me and I didn't know her, so no harm no foul. And you know, I can see why he would chose her over me anyways, cause she's much nicer and much funnier than me!
:-)
Funnier and nicer than you? That's not possible. ;-)
She certainly can't be any more gullible than you.
Well I MUST be gulible considering (i) I actually came to work for YOU, and (ii) I stayed working for you for how long again???!! heheheheehe
One of my best friends in the world stole my first love (inadvertently), married him and had a son with him, then ended up divorcing him and marrying my other ex-boyfriend. We didn't even get to know each other until after the deed was done, and now I can't imagine my world without her.
And it has nothing to do with anyone being nicer or funnier, it has to do with chemistry, darlings!
hey you know, alot of good friendships come out of adversity so I can sure see that. Its definitely about chemistry. But you know, I think I have pretty good chemistry with her too!! heheheehe
Chemistry, physics, scientology, or whatever, I still think it's weird. It must be a girl thing because I have my doubts that many men would engage in such foolery.
But, if it's worked out for the better, then I'm all for it.
Oh, and by the way, working for me was the best thing since sliced bread. Admit it.
So, splain me Mr. Anon, why is it that men have a hard time with this? Are ya'll afraid that we are going to "compare notes" on certian things or what?? :-) Heck, look at my dh, he has his wife and ex both living with him and we all do fine. You can't help who you like, and I really like her and we get along GREAT! and did I mention she cracks herself up?? hehhehehee
Or maybe is it Anon, that we will compare notes, and you guys will come up short?!!?
It's funny that you bring up the issue of comparing notes and coming up short. Last time I played golf (and everytime I've played golf for that matter), I've found it common after a player hits the ball for another player to ask "what club did you use?" Why ask the question? You might think it's because the second guy believes he can replicate the first shot by using the same club regardless of the differing skill level between players. But that's not it at all. The simple answer is, that's a guy's way of making conversation.
In reality, some guys hit 5 irons to the green from 200 yards, others hit 3 woods, and everything else in between. As the saying goes, it's not the club, it's the stroke. So, guys don't care how they get into the hole, just so they get there.
So compare notes all you want, we don't care. We will continue to maintain shallow relationships with other men just as it's been done from the beginning of time.
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