I often wonder:
How can we sit in judgment and condemn others? Seems like the only one that has a right to judge or condemn is God, but we as humans are all guilty of doing just that. Most of the time, our judgments are based on someone’s looks, their thoughts, their perceptions, their ideas, their actions or a perceived notion by us about their thoughts, comments or ideas. And I have found, that we are often wrong in our judgment or assumptions of others. I believe there is a saying about this that goes something like, “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover.” We tend to be the judge and jury and find people guilty and sentence them to life, without all the facts in evidence or at least giving the facts the reasonable doubt that they deserve. Its much easier to find them guilty and hang them then to admit that maybe we didn’t see all the facts or made judgments in haste or out of anger, or just refused to see another’s point of view and respect where those views came from.
How can some people sit high on their thrones, thinking they can do no wrong and condemn others for acts that they themselves are guilty of and have been forgiven of? How can you condone one person doing the same act that you are condemning another for? Or for that matter, the same act that you yourself is doing? Isn’t that hypocritical? Who are they to withhold forgiveness when it is asked of them? Just because someone does things differently than you does not make how they did it wrong. Just because someone comes to different conclusions than you do about the same issue does not make either conclusion wrong. Being able to open our minds and our hearts to be able to see all sides of an issue is what makes us able to come up with so many solutions to the problems at hand. That allows us to “think outside the box.” It keeps us from being so narrow minded that all we can focus on is ourselves and how we perceived the solution to an issue. Everyone’s favorite radio station: WIFM (What’s in it for me?) That’s what most people think about. Themselves and only themselves.
What was one of the first Golden Rules that we learned as children? “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” Exactly how far should you take this? If you repeatedly do for others and get it thrown back in your face, do you continue to try and do for them? When is enough, enough?
I suppose there comes a time in all our lives when we have to mourn the loss of things we cannot change. Just as the serenity prayer says:
How can we sit in judgment and condemn others? Seems like the only one that has a right to judge or condemn is God, but we as humans are all guilty of doing just that. Most of the time, our judgments are based on someone’s looks, their thoughts, their perceptions, their ideas, their actions or a perceived notion by us about their thoughts, comments or ideas. And I have found, that we are often wrong in our judgment or assumptions of others. I believe there is a saying about this that goes something like, “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover.” We tend to be the judge and jury and find people guilty and sentence them to life, without all the facts in evidence or at least giving the facts the reasonable doubt that they deserve. Its much easier to find them guilty and hang them then to admit that maybe we didn’t see all the facts or made judgments in haste or out of anger, or just refused to see another’s point of view and respect where those views came from.
How can some people sit high on their thrones, thinking they can do no wrong and condemn others for acts that they themselves are guilty of and have been forgiven of? How can you condone one person doing the same act that you are condemning another for? Or for that matter, the same act that you yourself is doing? Isn’t that hypocritical? Who are they to withhold forgiveness when it is asked of them? Just because someone does things differently than you does not make how they did it wrong. Just because someone comes to different conclusions than you do about the same issue does not make either conclusion wrong. Being able to open our minds and our hearts to be able to see all sides of an issue is what makes us able to come up with so many solutions to the problems at hand. That allows us to “think outside the box.” It keeps us from being so narrow minded that all we can focus on is ourselves and how we perceived the solution to an issue. Everyone’s favorite radio station: WIFM (What’s in it for me?) That’s what most people think about. Themselves and only themselves.
What was one of the first Golden Rules that we learned as children? “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” Exactly how far should you take this? If you repeatedly do for others and get it thrown back in your face, do you continue to try and do for them? When is enough, enough?
I suppose there comes a time in all our lives when we have to mourn the loss of things we cannot change. Just as the serenity prayer says:
God, grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change...
Courage to change the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did,
this sinful world as it is,Not as I would have it.
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
Amen.
That’s all we can do is put our lives in God’s hands and accept the fact that he is doing what is right for us. No matter how much it hurts, or how much we wish and have tried to change things, it cannot happen if you are the only one that wants it to change. You must accept the fact that people do not care for you the same that you do for them. You can just pray for their understanding and hope that one day, something may change, but if not, then it was not ment to be. It may appear to you that it is unjust and unfair, but you have to accept and respect the feelings of others. The pain will lessen and lessen each and every day. The days and the nights will get easier. And soon you will be able to enjoy life again. There will always be a big part missing, and a little piece of your heart missing, but you will learn that you can live without these little pieces and you always have your memories. Although I would love for things to be different, doesn't look like that is going to happen. You can remember the good times and let go of the anger and the hurt. Its very fatiguing (and quite frankly, it hurts too dam much).
5 comments:
I agree with you 100%. It hurts like hell but it does get easier with time and you realize that you are better off in the long run.
it seems that you have forgotten about me, since i havent heard from you,
Now, how could I do that?? :-)
whatever, you tell me
Oh now come on. I will NEVER forget those most important to me! =)
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